Wednesday, 27 July 2016

Looking For Advice #Relationship Issue

This is a different post for me to my usual but i am hoping for some advice on what has happened.

As some of you may know, i was once married but my husband cheated on me with a good friend of mine and it was the end of our marriage. I struggled for years and eventually in April i started anti-depressants for the first time. A certain amount of paranoia can be associated with taking these though.

So this is the situation guys and girls. I have been told by my boyfriend that one of my closest and best friends is interested in him. Her sister has contacted my boyfriend and told him of her interest and it was done with the intention of finding out if he could be interested and how the land lies.She told him in strict confidence and asked him to promise that he would not say anything to anyone. He did make that promise but has broken it as he told me. As far as i know,my friend has no idea that she has done this but maybe she does and did actually ask her sister to find out.

My boyfriend has been upfront with me about it but me being me and what has happened to me in the past,i cant help but feel worried and anxious about the whole situation. I have noticed recently that when we are out,she seems to be there more times than not.I dont want history repeating itself but there is so many similarities to what happened in the past. Also he has told me that she texts almost every day for some reason or another.

I do remember her saying to me in a joke that if things went wrong with me and him that she would love a crack at him,we were just having a laugh at the time,well at least that's what i though.

My boyfriend has told me that he has no interest in her but he has always seen her as a friend as they both get on well together. However,last week she asked him if he would go for a coffee with her someday as she has recently had a family death and needs someone to talk to and as he is good at this sort of thing,she would feel better for having that talk. They both told me about this and i was totally ok with this at the time but i know now that this was suggested after he knew of her interest. My God,i am so confused writing this!

He is actually going away for a week next week but it is work related and myself and my friend have arranged a few girls nights out while he is away,oh God i just thought of when i was married and my husband was away,my friend who my husband cheated on me with tried to get me to get with another guy while we were out but i was having none of it as i am not like that.

So to sum it all up,
he knows of her interest and has told me,
she does not know that we both know as her sister asked,
knowing of her interest,he was willing to go for that coffee,
i have no idea what to do now.

Surely it is an unwritten rule that friends dont try it on with their friends other half,this is twice it has happened to me and i dont know what to do,

any advice will be welcomed,

thank you,


Thursday, 21 July 2016

How BOTS will work this season

Ok guys and girls,we are trying something different this season where our Girls v Guys leagues are concerned and this is how it will work.

There will be 2 leagues of 32 Girls and 32 Guys and one league of 22 v 22 and all 3 leagues will be CLASSIC leagues. How the points scoring on a weekly basis for our respective teams will work is as follows,

1st in league 20 team points,
2nd in league 19 team points, (all the way down to)
20th in league 1 team point,
therefore if you are placed anywhere between 21st and 64th or between 21st and 44th in our 3rd league,you will score zero points for your team so please keep that in mind. At the end of each week,the team which scores the most cumulative points will get the win.

There will also be Cup knockout comps throughout the season and these will be H2H girl v guy matches. These should be alot of fun and hopefully create some banter on twitter.

Just a note on the cup knockout competition for the league of 22 v 22 which is called "Battle of the Sexes". As there are 44 teams,it will be required to have a qualifying round of 12 girls v 12 guys so this will be determined by the top 10 guys and girls in the league getting a bye to the 1st round after a GW which is still to be decided. So to sum up,it will be top 20 and the 12 winners of the qualifying round will take part in the 1st round of the knockout cup.

This is basically how it will work and i must stress that all leagues are of equal importance and are not categorized as league 1,2,3.

*All leagues are now full*

thanks to everyone who has joined both the Girls and the Guys teams and the best of luck to both teams,sure bragging rights are at stake and the girls are very confident of winning all 3 leagues so bring it on guys,

Hollie (on behalf of all the Bots crew)